Past situations that were traumatic or difficult can result in us constantly thinking or fantasising about them; in extreme cases to the point it becomes severe and debilitating, leading to a breakdown of daily functions. This extreme end of the spectrum is post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). In counselling, the term ‘unfinished business’ is used to describe where an unsatisfactory resolution of past situations has not been reached.
Unfinished business commonly comes down to an inability to fully accept what has happened, a lack of emotional expression over a past situation, inability to cope with an action not being taken that perhaps should or could have been, or an unresolved conflict of different reactions to what happened. Sometimes this unfinished business may be unclear but will manifest as chronic tension or depression.
Counselling allows you to share and explore your thoughts and feelings in a safe, warm and non-judgmental environment. Therapy could help you to manage your life differently or support you in developing coping strategies.